Today family counselors believe that by teaching the principles and techniques of marriage and management between spouse and family, marriage could be guaranteed and divorce will be
Old people believed that the future of marriage could not be predicted and it was like a watermelon in a package that we are unaware of, but today family counselors believe that by teaching the principles and techniques of marriage and management between spouse and family, marriage could be guaranteed and divorce will be knocked out.
Saeed Kaveh, a family counselor and couple therapist, stated in an interview with IRNA on Tuesday that one of the ways to encourage young people to get married and remain steady in this blessed duty is to know the dominant principles of marriage and said, ” In society, we are witnessing that tools and equipment in the hands of people who are aware of technical issues are more durable and long-lived because they know how to use it perfectly. The same goes for marriage issues. A girl and a boy who know the issues related to an emotional and romantic relationship and the right way to communicate with the opposite sex in cohabitation (blanc marriage) will have a more successful life.
Three-quarters of couples due to lack of knowledge of skills, do not have a romantic relationship.
He continued, “In the current period, three- quarters of couples do not have romantic relationships because they do not know the principles ruling romantic relationships.”
Kaveh explained, ” For example, a client stated that “My husband does not allow me to go to work or social activities”. This shows that couples have not learned that both husband and wife should grow and improve. When marriage leads to this, it is possible that one becomes the boss and the other is the subordinate and the marriage will lose its stability and durability or life will continue under the smoky roof.
The necessity of paying attention to the quality of marriage rather than its quantity
Kaveh by emphasizing that instead of increasing marriage, we should think about increasing its quality, noted, ” Some people relate the stability, durability, and quality of marriage to economic issues, whereas it does not affect the quality of marriage because in the northern areas of the city, despite the financial potency, the divorce rate is higher than in other regions, or in the United States, which is a rich country with ۵۲% of divorce rates, has the first ranking in the world.”
He continued, “Although having wealth and money guarantees and fulfills a part of the necessities of life, but it is not the case that one must have money to attract someone’s companionship and emotion. The financial issues excuse in marriage is mostly political, which is raised by some, while it should be learned that a healthy and excellent relationship can be the people’s human saturator, not wealth.
One in six people who go to counseling centers complains of disloyalty
The couple therapist stated, “The factors impacting the increase of life’s quality should be educated so that couples do not decide to divorce and separate with the slightest quarrel.”
Kaveh by saying that training and higher education are one of the effective centers in teaching life skills to have a successful marriage, reminded, ” Of course, not everything is taught in schools and universities. Rather the universe, society, and people are the best universities for girls and boys in teaching individual skills and they have to turn on their self-knowledge cognitive engine to learn things one by one.”
The family counselor described disloyalty as another case of unsuccessful marriages and said, “One in six people who go to counseling centers faces the problem of disloyalty, but only when marital tips and life skills are well taught, these things happen less.”
Manage life, do not have a day to day life
This couple therapist believes that having individual skills plays a key role in encouraging and facilitating marriage; A topic that is not specifically for Iranian society, and according to a recent study that has been done in Tokyo, Japan, shows that one-third of men in the city are single. They don’t get married because of the overwhelming pressures that they face after marriage. “
He explained, “One of the skills that are emphasized is the skill of management between spouse and family, spouse and housework, and so on. While tradition and culture are all at the service of human beings and should be the cause of human growth and development, and if this tradition prevents the husband or wife to grow and develop, it must be managed and put aside, for sure, to have an emotional and loving life.
Let’s dry up the roots of black cohabitation by evening out the marriage
In another part of his speech, Kaveh by saying that the lack of training in life skills and the dominance of traditions and customs leads to phobia amongst young people and leads them to cohabitation( blanc marriage) and other harms and emphasized, ” If we teach young people the principles and techniques of marriage and the right way to communicate with the opposite sex in married life, they will never face with disorder and laxity in marriage and will not never accept cohabitation(blanc marriage).”
He continued, ” Our girls and boys should know that cohabitation (blanc marriage) never ends in marriage, because based on the clients’ evidence, trust never casts a shadow over these types of lives, and even if a percentage ends in marriage, there will always be doubts between the couples.”
As reported by IRNA, the ۱st of Dhu al-Hijjah, the wedding anniversary of Hazrat Ali (AS) and Hazrat Fatemeh Zahra (AS), has been named as the wedding day, and on this occasion, the marriage and family week will be held from the ۲۲nd to ۲۸th of August with the purpose of promoting easy marriage.
Vice Presidency for Women and Family Affairs